Sunday, April 27, 2008

Letting Go..

One of the most hardest things in the world, is letting go. However close you are to someone or something, at some point you just have to let things be and not obsess over it.

Parents, have to learn to let go of their children. Treating them like 5 year olds when they're 21 and can legally drink is uncool. Although, i suppose I'll know the feeling only when I'm a parent i guess. But as of right now, I'm on the other side of the fence and this is pure undiluted injustice!

Friends, are the best things ever. There is no question of letting go or giving them 'space'. You can be around them all the time and still not feel suffocated by them.

Lovers, are weird beings. It's a huge complicated mess when one wants a lot of space and the other would just like to spend some quality time. I hate love. I always have. It's never been kind to me. I have become a full blown out and out cynic. In fact, I've always had a very strong hunch that i was an evil queen in my last birth, who separated lovers and got between the way of true love.

Anyway, at the end of the day, you cant force things to happen. If you get hurt, deal with it. Don't mope for too long, don't mope for too little time. Mope for just the exact amount of hours.

If, on the other hand, you get lucky and end up with the man of your dreams, good for you! Just don't come around gloating about it to the rest of us single folks and make us look like wimps. Thankyou very much.

11 comments:

busy-writer said...

ahem, got her from xh's blog. your 'bout me sec' totally err, for loss of a better word, lured me in.
hehe, i love kc. bridget jones is real. hail em both, yeah! :D
and hmm, leggin go? yes, sumthin horribly hard. i love the way you wrote bout friends.. jus think you could have classified further, close friends and just-friends.. i think bein around just-friends all the time and still not feel suffocated...that has more chances i think. maybe cause only suferficial talk, plain fun ...things totally light is what most of us want most of the time. stress buster or sumthin!
nyway lol..i think my comment is gettin too long, so peace.
:)

Anonymous said...

Hey look... G3 GIVING GYAAN!! GOOD GOOD...
Alliteration at its best no!!!

--xh-- said...

agree spot on with ur views.. my mom used to day 'adakka ayal madiyil vakkam.. adkkamaram aayalo?'. but then they also sometiems feel it hard to let it go... to give us free reign...

and love.. yesh, it is weird... the space and time and stuff.. lucky r those who haev partenrs who value personal space adn time...
love is NOT sharing everything, but understanding the other person as he/she is and accepting them and making them a part of yor life without being suffocated by them or suffocating them...

anything taken / given in overdose is not so good...

Mustang said...

hold just right and you'l always have them in sight !
some, on the other hand, hold too tight and all they do is fight.

which is the case between parents and kids, between lovers or even friends.. and yes, letting go is developing self maturity in handling things and people.

Well, it sure is shoddy to be on the receiving end, but it quite prepares you of what NOT to do later on.

cheers
D

Mustang said...

ah yes... good ol beasi... its where im mostly during sat and sun evenings.. we used to be a regular at cozee until he started having customers waiting on tables while we bikers used to drink away chai by the dozen..

he sure is sweet.... especially when he says " please understand " :P

D

cm chap said...

Gyann? By the way u got lucky? Ha Ha

Vadapoche said...

Liked the ending! Ha ha ha.

One Bizarre Scribe said...

jolly good post, it's just that 6 billion people out there, your generalization might be a tad too general.. tsk-tsk.. whatever happened to the hot hairdresser boy??

Compassion Unlimitted said...

//It's a huge complicated mess //wonderful expression..but this mess is which makes it more interesting i guess
tc
cu

Da Rodent said...

most of the time, they are not gloating.. they are just trying to assert to themselves that it is so.. :P

Deekshanya said...

a very well written post. esp.
1)//I hate love. I always have. It's never been kind to me. //
2)//Anyway, at the end of the day, you cant force things to happen//
3)//Just don't come around gloating about it to the rest of us single folks and make us look like wimps//
:)
deeksh